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Date Joined: August 24, 2011
Last Online: July 19, 2017
Birthday: December 29
Country: United States
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About Me

NOTE: I have been absent from Swap-Bot for a bit due to a family emergency. One of the upsetting things about Swap-Bot is that there's no excuse for unplanned illnesses and emergencies in RL; either you can send things or you can't. And when you can't, you are stuck with too many low ratings to participate anymore. I really loved my time on Swap-Bot, and I hate that I have to sacrifice that because sometimes, life doesn't go well and you don't get notice. :( Thank you to everyone who has been a friend to me, and has shown kindness and support. My ratings are now too low to come back and play with you guys, but I'll never forget the wonderful people I've met. Friends are not forgotten, wherever they are! hugs tight Avi, I've got some letters going your way! hugs

Just a quirky and well-traveled artist, performer, and professional writer in love with life, adventure, and capturing beauty and uniqueness wherever possible. A little romance and innate flair for the dramatic never hurt anyone. ;) I'm kind of a boho-chic type of girl, with an attraction toward the flamboyant. I love the beautiful, the delicate, the creative, things that are old-fashioned, feminine, edgy, or have a personal touch. I love the idea of creating and sharing with others, since there's often so little room for that in everyday life, and I love the idea of making the world a smaller place.

I like everyone until given a reason not to, and give everyone hugs. I'm a bit snarky and would like to claim wit among my positive attributes (Dorothy Parker and Oscar Wilde are both beloved by me!), but it may just be a sarcastic attitude. :P I live my life according to the wisdom of Dr. Seuss, "Be who you are and say what you feel."

I'm a little avant-garde in my tastes. I'm flamboyant, romantic, and a bit in love with the periods in life where drama and beauty were a little more prized. However, I still love reality TV and social media. A LOT. Once upon a time, I was a finalist for a popular reality television show. Didn't get the job, but I met so many unique people! I did participate in a blog-based "reality show" back in the day when people had blogs instead of YouTube. It's safe to say, I'm the most likeable narcissist you'll ever meet! ;)

I love travel, and worked on a cruise line for a little over a year. I've been active with Couchsurfing,hosted Meetups for a number of years,, and AirBnB is my friend. Sadly, I fell ill with an inner ear disorder, and can no longer travel. I still hope that one day, I'll be seeing things on my list and having crazy experiences.

I've played on a trivia team called Unindicted Co-Conspirators for YEARS. I'm a total geek about musicals and reality TV and the first person to want to go to karaoke or costume parties. I never know what I'm going to get really into next, but I have a tendency to keep my geeky side to myself until you get to know me really well. I'm simply a life-enthusiast!

I've been in a long-term relationship with a great guy for seven years, have an 5-year-old Ragdoll-mix cat named Sebastian, and in my free time, run a successful social group in the Atlanta area. Unconventional, poly-oriented, creative, Capricorn, ENFP, Enneagram #7, liberal, intellectually curious, excited about new projects, adventures, travel, and people. I have a geeky side that enjoys a video game or two, establishing friendships online, games that involve creating worlds, characters, and stories, and almost anything imaginative. I published my first book at the end of 2012, and am determined to work on a second this year. In 2014, I exhibited a piece inspired by mail art that used sheet music, letters, postcards, and other ephemera from 1850-1950, and featured a poem written for the exhibit. We all inspire one another!! :)

Favorite Music

My degree is in opera and musical theatre, so I have a very eclectic taste in music, from classical and opera to jazz to alternative rock. I love listening to new stuff and exploring new sounds! Unless you're devoted to country western and polka, you're probably not going to disappoint me in the music department. (and I have since met someone who changed my mind on SOME country music. ;) )Favourite artists right now include Coldplay, Adele,John Legend, Lady Gaga, Evanescence, Fun, Eve 6, Christina Perri, The Lumineers, Volbeat, Ani DiFranco, Madeleine Peyroux ABBA, Halestorm, Blackmore's Night, ,Blue October, The Decembrists, Radiohead, Tori Amos, and many others.I tend to enjoy alternative rock and some pop; so while my favourites will change regularly, above are my staples! :)

Musical theatre influences and favourites include Kristen Chenoweth, Idina Menzel, Josh Groban, Michael Ball, Patti LuPone, Bernadette Peters, Christiane Noll, Mandy Patinkin, Adam Pascal, Sutton Foster, Ruthie Henshall, Neil Patrick Harris, Anna Kendrick, Alice Ripley, Elaine Paige, Andrea Boccelli and Sarah Brighman. My favourite musical of all-time is "Chess" but in general, rock operas and opericals are my thing. :)

Musical child of the 90's, but equally in love with 80's songs!

Swapping & Communication

I have unfortunately acquired a new low rating, given to me because a postcard was a few days late. I contacted the issuer of the rating asking to make up the swap, to no avail.I hope many of you will give me a chance to participate despite this issue. When you apologise for a mistake try to resolve something and the other person says no---it isn't a reflection on you so much. People are not perfect. :( It is even more upsetting when the person asks to be contacted before anyone gives them a low rating to make up the details. I'm just going to have to leave the whole situation up to karma, I suppose. But I almost left Swap-Bot over this issue, as it was highly upsettting.

You may have also noticed I have a two low ratings. They are from difficulties with a Mega Swap during the Christmas season when we also had an ice storm,many years ago. Unfortunately, those who issued them are no longer active, but I have contacted both of them and asked to do something to make up for the swap/rating, in case they do return.

I suffer from Meniere's Disease and related anxieties. It's an inner ear disorder that has good times and bad times. It's important for my overall well-being to keep this hobby as stress-free as possible, for me and for other people. I'm not interested in drama and cliquishness and passive-aggressive complaining, and those who are my kind of people tend to see the world the same way. I don't have the heart to throw around low ratings, because they seem to carry way too much weight here, IMHO. If I have an issue with you or your swap, you can trust it's a private thing. I let karma take care of bad energy and those few who like to take advantage. I refuse to let a few bad apples ruin it for the rest of us just having fun!

I rate every swap, but I rate them in large bunches approximately 2 weeks after the swap ends. That allows for anyone who was late or lives overseas to have a grace period, and for me to wrap things up in a neat little group. If you I usually leave a kind note for every rating, but if I didn't leave a message, please don't take it personally. It means I had SO many to write, and many times, you'll have the same partner over and over again. I feel rather silly posting 5 times to the same person that you were awesome in the past two weeks. lol

If you have an issue with a swap, please take the time to contact me privately before issuing a low rating. Likewise, I always try to issue ratings and hearts and stars so people know I appreciate their hard work! If it seems I've forgotten you, rating the swap may have fallen through the cracks, so a gentle reminder is absolutely welcome---just please wait 2-3 weeks after the swap closes.

I am NOT a type A personality...I'm not going to check the postmark on mail to see if you sent it on the exact date, so on, and so forth. I honestly don't care that much; we all have busy lives and as long as swaps get done in a reasonable amount of time, we're cool! If I am not happy with a swap, I won't put up a post meant to judge and shame you, either. It's so easy to take the fun out of things meant to be fun! I really dislike everything to do with rating, judgement, and being obsessed with rules . I tend to sign up for very low-maintenance inclusive swaps....nothing wrong with lots of rules to follow, but it just isn't my thing.

I like to take the time to get to know people personally, and to share on a level they'll truly enjoy, so filling out your profile will help me be better at this! If you put up a profile, I'm going to read it. :D

I keep journals, not just online, but the hand-written type. I've done so most of my life, and am never one to say no to a beautiful journal or pens as a special gift. I also like little mementos, poems, quotes, etc, that end up in them. I'm the sentimental type, who will keep a pretty rock, bead, or piece of fabric with a story behind it. I love pictures, letters, stories, thrift store finds, and chocolate. I love learning about people who live different lives in different places, so if you aren't shy, tell me about yours!! :)

I'm not the crafty type; I don't crochet or knit or build awesome stuff out of Popsicle sticks. If I made you a card, you'd probably think you were communicating with a 5 year-old. So, you know, just letting you know. :) I will also often reuse envelopes if I send you a package, because it saves on both cost and helps the environment. However, the inside will always be prettier.

I love all things beautiful, glittery, and unique. Stickers, blank cards, and gel pens are always welcome, since I use them frequently. I am always in need of postcards, handmade, blank, or with messages for me--I have a soft spot for art cards, whether classic, art nouveau, or just plain witty.

I'm kind of a unique, colourful, and creative person, and I don't always have an excuse to share those things with others. I think this sort of thing provides an extra excuse. :)

I've attended festivals like DragonCon, Burning Man, and Coachella, and love live concerts, professional theatre, opera, ballet, and pretty much any form of performance-based expression. I am a sensitive and old soul in many ways, always looking for ways to connect with others. (I am not actually old, though...just getting there. ;) )

In addition to being a professional writer, I'm also a long time blogger, and quite visible on Facebook, so for those looking to be social, please get in touch...I adore new readers, and will happily friend you on FB if you inform me you're from here. I'll also add links to your blog from mine if it's something I love!:)

Favorite Books

I actually do love to read, though I don't always find as much time to do so as I'd like to. I'm a sucker for historical fiction and chick lit (Phillipa Gregory and Sophie Kinsella are always on my must-reads when their newest come out.). However, I also enjoy more contemplative and inspirational books (Paulo Coelho is my favourite author), am working my way through a lot of unread classics (working on conquering Jane Austen now), and love character-based stories that are simply interesting, as well as biographies of fascinating individuals. Strong, independent, and evocative women such as Dorothy Parker, Anais Nin, Marie Antoinette, Tallulah Bankhead, Edie Sedgwick, Eva Peron, and Marilyn Monroe are always inspiring to me. I love learning about the lives of artists, bohemians, and the unconventional thinkers of any time period.

I am one of the few people who enjoys Russian literature, and worked with a repertory company that produced largely Chekov plays for a season. Every year, I try to set a goal of reading at least 10 books on the "Most Influential Pieces Of Literature" list and 10 from the "Banned Books" list. I used to try to read 100 books a year, but grrrr....why aren't there 48 hours in a day?

I don't just read serious literature. Jodi Picoult and John Greene are favourites, and my favourite books are "Never Let Me Go" and "White Oleander".(by neither of those authors; I see now how that sentence can be confusing.) I enjoyed "Hunger Games" and "Divergent" series immensely, and yes, I've read all the Twilight books. ;)

Favourite Quotes

I collect great quotes, and will frequently use them in my art, journals, or just daily correspondence. :) I scrapbook the blank space on my walls (seriously, two walls of my room are a giant bulletin board filled with photos and memories.), so beautifully hand-written quotes are welcome and will likely be added to the collection. Here are some of my favourites:

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting". ~e.e. cummings

"Take care of the luxuries, and the necessities will take care of themselves." ~ Dorothy Parker

"The question isn't who is going to let me; the question is who is going to stop me."---Ayn Rand

"They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself." ~ Andy Warhol

"Conventional people are roused to fury by departure from convention, largely because they regard such departure as a criticism of themselves." ~Bertrand Russell

"Average people are the most special people in the world. That's why God made so many of us. " ~ The Office

"Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they're just supposed to run wild, until they find someone just as wild to run with." ~ "Sex And The City"

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. " ~ Anais Nin

"The thermometer of success is merely the jealousy of the malcontents." ~ Salvador Dali

“The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow Roman candles." ~ Jack Kerouac

"I drank to drown my pain, but the damned pain learned how to swim, and now I am overwhelmed by this decent and good behavior. " ~ Frida Kahlo

"I want someone who's not afraid of me--or anyone else. In other words, I want someone who isn't..afraid of themselves. " ~ Ani DiFranco

What I'd Love To Swap

Just a sample of my interests:

  • Journals, letters, and other pieces of self-expression.
  • Anything handmade and unique
  • Anything I can add to my journals or correspondence in a creative way.
  • Objects that have stories
  • Unique beads, rocks, stones, and vintage jewelry.
  • Beautiful and aesthetically evocative art, in any medium
  • Postcards and handmade envelopes
  • "Surprise" packages based on profiles or swap details.
  • Unique things from other countries, from candy to coins to music, though I have to limit international trades due to postage.
  • Randomness! I'm open to being open-minded and creative.
  • Collage art. It's so much fun to make.
  • Anything related to cocktails/martini glasses/etc. I collect these things.
  • Things related to faeries, or with a fantasy/Gothic feel.
  • Things featuring redheads, particularly of an artistic, vintage, or fashion vibe. I have vibrant red hair and love to see more redheads appear in art everywhere!:)
  • Things relating to Guenevere, the Arthurian era, and the realm of Camelot, and the Medieval Era
  • Paris, London, New York, Sydney; beautiful things/photos/postcards from major cities around the world.
  • Roses, orchids, and other pretty flowers
  • All things musical theatre related, or related to theatre, opera, and cinema in general.
  • Chocolate. All kinds. Love it. See above. :)
  • Old-fashioned love letters and journals.
  • Thrift Store Finds
  • Things with a dark but beautiful feel; I'm a gothic romantic at heart.

Less Traditional Obsessions &

Not everyone is into fashion and costuming as a form of artistic expression, but I most definitely am. Read on:

  • Anything to do with costumes and costuming, or fashion...the more flamboyant, the better.
  • Glitter, feather boas, masques, beads, and things that remind you of Mardi Gras or burlesque.
  • Jewelry, handbags, makeup, and wearable art.
  • Things designed for meditation and relaxation, from candles and mix CDs to bath salts and aromatherapy.
  • Gel pens and unique journals
  • Salvador Dali
  • Things Gothic, Victorian, or Marie Antoinette related.
  • Tarot cards, candles, spells, things Wiccan or Gothic in nature
  • Vintage items, fabrics, and wearables.
  • Perfumes and lace
  • M & M Collectibles
  • Things adorned with the letter "A"! :)

Things I Don't Much Like

  • The colour yellow.
  • Taffy, caramels, and other sticky candy.
  • Judgment and inauthenticity...I respect your beliefs, but please don't try to make them my beliefs, or judge anyone else's lifestyle choices. Love all and accept all for the beauty they bring to the world.
  • Those who talk in code behind backs and whisper about others behind closed doors. If you have something to say to someone, say it to them. It isn't passive-aggressive to handle disputes in private, it's just classy.
  • Most stuff from the 1950''s; the more kitschy, the more I don't like it.
  • Anything preaching any religion, unless the message is one of peace, love, or acceptance. , or meant to be simply inspirational.
  • Cutesy stuff (e.g. Kawaii, dotee dolls, hello kitty). It just isn't me.
  • Horror flicks and stuff related to the horror genre. Dark, yes; horrific, no.

My Current Wishlist

I don't ever really like to post "wishes", but here are a few things I am specifically seeking these days! :

  • Anything 1920's-oriented!
  • Anything from the medieval, Elizabethan, Romantic, Victorian, or Belle Epoque eras
  • A Che Guevara postcard
  • Anything "Golden Age Of Hollywood"
  • Things with lovely roses!
  • Blank postcards from my favourite cities and places, or of classic works of art
  • Nice stationary with envelopes
  • Washi tape, even small samples
  • Fine-tipped or gel pens in any colour--even a new one will be put to good use.
  • Inspirational quotes or favourite poems
  • Creative stickers (not teacher/school oriented)
  • Blank notecards/card stock/postcards, any size.
  • Perfume/scent samples

Some people hate when you toss extra "stuff" into an envelope. Not me...anything I can't use gets passed on, and I never see anything as "junk". laughs My craft drawers hate me!

Swapping Preferences

I love pen pals, but I'm often simply pressed for time and wish I could write more than I do. When I meet someone I have a lot in common with or we really get on well, I'll end up with a new pen pal or e-mail pal--so I'm totally friendly and up for new friends-- or just send correspondence to say hello! But, unfortunately, I don't have the time to send out lots of letters, so you'll notice I don't often do letter or journal swaps, despite my love of writing.

I don't do ATCs or other little crafts. I'm just kind of not really talented that way. laughs

I love postcard, notecard, and Pinterest swaps!! I also enjoy meeting, greeting, and decorating people via their profiles. If you write to me for a swap, I'd love if you'd actually write at least a few sentences to me, introducing yourself and talking about...whatever! Isn't it better to actually get to know people on here? :)

I'm on Facebook, Pinterest, and other social media, so if you are, please feel free to ask how to find me and connect. A girl can never have too many friends, online or off.

It's easy to make me smile, so I do my best to share that with others!


matt319 rated for MEGA8 - Postcards #3 (USA) on Jun 27, 2018
Mandii79 rated for Pinterest: Tiny tattoos on Feb 18, 2017
Comment: Love these super cute tiny tattoos
Mandii79 rated for Pinterest: Mail boxes on Feb 18, 2017
Comment: Some really cute mailboxes in your choices and some cool quirky ones!
jesslynne rated for APDG ~ Quick Swap ~ Koalas ;-) on Nov 18, 2016
Comment: Thank you :)
Jwlrybabe rated for 25 Quotes #2 on Sep 29, 2016
Comment: Despite sending an inquiry to my partner approx 8-10 weeks after due date, I never received anything.
Comment: Sorry to rate you a one but you have not replied to my message and also I see you have not logged in to swap bot for some time now. I am willing to change my rating should you send the swap :)
kdeorne1 rated for APDG ~ Favorite Quotes MEGA SWAP! on Aug 7, 2016
Comment: Thank you for the great quotes you shared with me.
Lonestarchild rated for May Pick 3 - US Only on Jul 29, 2016
Comment: Update 7/29/16: Thank you for the resend and the nice note about your confusion over which swap this was. The things you sent are lovely and I do appreciate that you followed through and resent after I had to rate a 1 on 7/17. I'm sorry but I feel like I can only change this to a 3 because it was so late. July 17: The send by date was 5/31. It shows you sent on 6/1, but nothing ever arrived. I contacted you on 6/15. On 6/24 you said you would send by 6/27. As of 7/17, nothing has arrived. Will re-rate if anything arrives.
Response: Of course that is your choice to make, and appreciate you changing my "1" rating. :) I am glad that you appreciated the package, even though family emergency precluded the 6/27 send I had promised. There are times where you have to drop everything to attend to illness in the family, and it's a shame Swap-Bot doesn't really have a work-around for that which keeps everyone happy...but there really isn't one. It seems to be one of the major reasons people get "kicked off" the site: unplanned family emergencies that lower your ratings and keep you from coming back in future. However, I have made good on the swaps I missed due to this, and that's all anyone can really do! I am sorry for the inconvenience, and glad your mail was received. :) *hugs*
Gabrielle rated for MEGA8 - Postcards #3 (USA) on Jul 21, 2016
Comment: Thanks for both the beautiful card and the wonderful note about your boyfriend. I think those of us who find a true and loving partner are about the luckiest people in the world! Thanks and happy swapping!
Comment: Thank you for the lovely postcard! Hugs, Diane
Comment: Belated thank you for the beautiful window box of flowers, metallic polka-dotted tape (reminds me of the costume and scenic design of Hairspray :) I don't know how I feel about the Live! version's casting, but I will try to withhold any comments until I see the production in December, heheh), and colorful stickers (the concentric stickers remind me of the evil eye charms in one of my favorite Mediterranean restaurants). Speaking of Hamilton, I saw that partial principal casting for Chicago was announced, as well as the departure of Daveed Diggs (in two days!) and Renee Elise Goldsberry (sometime this fall). I would love to see the Chicago production, since there are several lesser-known cast members in addition to Karen Olivo. Hope you and Sebastian are having a good day! It's raining intermittently, so my cats are napping <3
Response: Thank you so much for leaving such a nice note, Avi. I was actually dreading logging in because of all the vitriolic "You didn't do something on time and are a thoughtless person" mail and ratings--and I wasn't disappointed. I have unfortunately had to deal with family stuff, so my responses have been slower than I would prefer. However, there is mail coming your way, and you and your letters are always like a little ray of sunshine. :D I did hear about both of their departures from Hamilton, which is a little sad, you always wish you'd been able to see the OBC when it's an epic show!! It may be worth it to travel to Chicago to try to catch the secondary cast! Sebastian says hello and "meow". LOL. *hugs*
Comment: Belated, belated thank you for the gorgeous Degas dancers, ladybugs and flowers, and great Dorothy Parker quote, Alayna! (My apologies for the late rating; a sheaf of mail that arrived the week I was in NYC only made its way back to me recently!) Hope you are having a good Wednesday!
Response: Aww,...you're welcome! I managed to pack just a few of my favourite things on one card, so I'm glad you enjoyed it! And I absolutely understand...I am not certain about the mail system sometimes when you are out of town here in the U.S.! *laughs* I hope you're doing well, and keep your eyes pointed towards the mailbox!!<3
Comment: Thanks for the art pc! So wonderful to hear about other people going vegan, and that you enjoy vegan desserts. :D My current fav: Vegan Pizza, all the different custom sauces are amazing.
Snailmail rated for MEGA8 - Postcards #3 (USA) on Jul 8, 2016
Comment: Thanks
bbbhill6 rated for MEGA8 - Postcards #3 (USA) on Jul 6, 2016
Comment: Thank you for the wonderful postcard. As always I'm so excited to get your wonderful postcards
squince rated for MEGA8 - Postcards #3 (USA) on Jul 6, 2016
Comment: Cool card, thanks!
Comment: Thank you! Bummer the first card got lost but thanks for resending! xoxox Update: I THINK the card I just got today was the first one from this swap. It's postmarked May 11th and I just got it today! HA! It doesn't have a swap name but it has 8 facts written on it, so that's my assumption. :D
Response: Thank you for the re-rate!! It is very much appreciated!! :)
kittymojo rated for have you ever? on Jul 2, 2016
Comment: Wonderful to read your answers, love it when people take the time to really answer these questions swaps in a conversational way.

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Debmitch on Aug 7, 2016:

Debmitch on Jul 30, 2016:

Debmitch on Jul 6, 2016:

squince on Jul 6, 2016:

So so sorry to hear about your dad. Hang in there, xo.

laurelrachh87 on Jun 29, 2016:

APDG ~ Favorite Quotes Mega Swap!

Enjoy the rest of your day! xoxo Laurel

kdeorne1 on Jun 21, 2016:

APDG ~ Favorite Quotes MEGA SWAP!

kielpo on Jun 20, 2016:


APDG ~ Summer Solstice 2016


It's Summer Time!










SuZignomeMoM on Jun 20, 2016:

This is a repost of swap APDG ~ Favorite Quotes MEGA SWAP! I like cc got over enthusiastic and did more than 3. Since it says 1-3 I am posting only 1 this time, my old favorite.

Who can go wrong with Dr.Seuss?

Gixxychic on Jun 19, 2016:

APDG ~ Favorite Quotes MEGA SWAP!

Cheers, Ali

anrtist on Jun 19, 2016:


APDG ~ Favorite Quotes MEGA SWAP!
I am SO SORRY that I sent this swap earlier without RE~ reading that it is to only be 3 of my favorite quotes... You ALL KNOW that I just get carried away & I luv to send happy extras! (At least I hope they make you as happy as they make me to give & receive!!!! ;-)
I still feel that this is such a Fun, Pretty & Inspirational swap so far!
I hope you enjoy my offerings ;-)


Blessings! cc

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