LOL I commented on your profile before I realized it already had been brought up several times. But, I agree with you. (Apparantly I am the only one, too...)
I try to avoid rating Ones If I can, so like you, I wait. Im not overly concerned if somebody sends late. BIG WHOOP. I have to wait an extra day..or even a week. Seriously, so what. Obviously I appreciate when people send on time, but if by chance, somebody doesnt, Im just glad that they did. I will live that week because something was sent late - Swap-bot is NOT my life.
And, sometimes things DO happen (For example...my ONE....) Somehow, along time ago, that ATC got over looked. As soon as it happened, I pmed my parner to apologize and wanted to make up for it, resend and even sent extras as an apology. My partner said ok, and I resent. The rating was never changed. Recently, again, I offered to resend that swap as well as anything else to ammend the rating still. Now, my partner has never gotten back with me. So, of course, it makes me look like a "flaker" even though, Im still trying to make up for it a year later....
There is never going to be a "win-win" situation, and somebody will always be upset.
LOVE the beginning of your profile!! Thats exactly what I do and think! Everyone gets upset about it, but I am MORE than willing to change ratings, too! I just get tired of trying to chase people around.... I recently did the same thing...I rated about 30 people as 1's too....and only TWO people even messaged me about it. They werent nice about it....and both eventually offered to re-send. I declined the offer, and removed the rating all together. Its not that I really cared about that one atc from over a year ago...it just was the point. Nice to know somebody is on the same page as me!! lol (Sorry for the long littly rant-y comment on your profile! :) Happy Holidays!
I got the package you sent for the fringe cutter swap, and I have to say you sooo went above and beyond! You sent so much!! :)) Thank you thank you thank you! I wish I could give you hearts for this!
Oh chripes...it's not a "practice". I avoided rating unreceived swaps to keep from being rude to others (life DOES happen) and to keep from getting stressed out by all the big swaps I've been flaked on!
It is ridiculous to get rude and freak out about a rating that is temporary if the swap concerning it is spoken about or taken care of!
If a "system" will be put in place, or an actual "rule" about maximum time limits for rating swaps is made, then that definitely changes things.
The only way it would be wrong now is to give a rating for a swap I wasn't in in the first place (which isn't possible), or to refuse to change it if things are fixed.
If it ever actually becomes something that has a set way of being done, then I'll do it that way. But other than actually sending your swaps correctly and being honest on ratings ultimately, there haven't been any solid "have-to's" concerning swaps themselves.
Sure, if it becomes a rule that one is no longer able to give long periods of time to rate, or to forget about rating all together to avoid the stress for a while, then they will be rules and will be followed. That will make a slightly dishonest system...if swaps have a time limit for responsibility...if you can't be rated poorly for a swap that wasn't received (even though they can always be fixed) regardless of the date.
I do others the consideration of rating soon after receiving swaps...
I contact for many swaps I miss...multiple partner small swaps don't always get PM'd (I had a 20 PC swap and received less than 10 of them....would you PM every one of those? No...maybe a few of them, but most swappers would either rate right away, or give time for PCs to make it late).
If it's such a big deal to get rated for a swap that didn't get to your partner, you'd try to change your rating.
Hmm..I guess I'm done explaining here....I've said as much as can be said....and am in no way in the wrong.
I didn't do the most absolutely thorough and extreemly polite thing and make sure that everyone was PMd again, or check to make sure I got everyone that may not have been PMd, but that isn't wrong. And it's not particularly rude....it's merely not as polite as it could have been.
But then, neither is rating on a strict time-line without any consideration of life circumstances.
I choose to treat swap partners as humans with lives outside of their online pursuits; and only a few suffered from it....and only because they've done nothing as of yet to make sure their ratings remain for the better.
FYI Rachel does not agree with this practice as you can see by her post in the Public Forums regarding the matter. There will soon be a system in place to ensure that this doesn't happen again.
I guess no one really has to agree, as long as I'm not actually doing anything wrong. You really can't please everyone. But I'd much rather give more time for swaps to arrive and rate lost swaps later than usual (even risking ruffled feathers), than to rate immediately and ruffle feathers anyways shrug...no matter what, someone will be miffed.
Waiting at least gives the best chance for swaps to arrive, even when life does happen to those who's lives (or the postal service) interfere with their swaps.
No matter what, swaps eventually get rated...and the un-received ones will eventually have to be communicated about.
I do find it kind of amazing that many insist that it's more likely that a solid and real PC got lost (that gets kept with all the other PCs I receive), than that a message got misplaced or forgotten. Does that even make sense? It sounds more like an argument for argument's sake...
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I got the imps! I LOVE the scents! You sent much more than you needed to. :) Thank you so much! They came just in time for Halloweekend!!!!
Kye, I loved what you sent form the pick two tag, it was worth the wait, thank you.
LOL I commented on your profile before I realized it already had been brought up several times. But, I agree with you. (Apparantly I am the only one, too...)
I try to avoid rating Ones If I can, so like you, I wait. Im not overly concerned if somebody sends late. BIG WHOOP. I have to wait an extra day..or even a week. Seriously, so what. Obviously I appreciate when people send on time, but if by chance, somebody doesnt, Im just glad that they did. I will live that week because something was sent late - Swap-bot is NOT my life.
And, sometimes things DO happen (For example...my ONE....) Somehow, along time ago, that ATC got over looked. As soon as it happened, I pmed my parner to apologize and wanted to make up for it, resend and even sent extras as an apology. My partner said ok, and I resent. The rating was never changed. Recently, again, I offered to resend that swap as well as anything else to ammend the rating still. Now, my partner has never gotten back with me. So, of course, it makes me look like a "flaker" even though, Im still trying to make up for it a year later....
There is never going to be a "win-win" situation, and somebody will always be upset.
Okay..Im done again :)
LOVE the beginning of your profile!! Thats exactly what I do and think! Everyone gets upset about it, but I am MORE than willing to change ratings, too! I just get tired of trying to chase people around.... I recently did the same thing...I rated about 30 people as 1's too....and only TWO people even messaged me about it. They werent nice about it....and both eventually offered to re-send. I declined the offer, and removed the rating all together. Its not that I really cared about that one atc from over a year ago...it just was the point. Nice to know somebody is on the same page as me!! lol (Sorry for the long littly rant-y comment on your profile! :) Happy Holidays!
Hi, the registrations are open for Goth Postcards Swap #2 !!!
I got the package you sent for the fringe cutter swap, and I have to say you sooo went above and beyond! You sent so much!! :)) Thank you thank you thank you! I wish I could give you hearts for this!
Welcome to White Elephant Swap!
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Oh chripes...it's not a "practice". I avoided rating unreceived swaps to keep from being rude to others (life DOES happen) and to keep from getting stressed out by all the big swaps I've been flaked on!
It is ridiculous to get rude and freak out about a rating that is temporary if the swap concerning it is spoken about or taken care of!
If a "system" will be put in place, or an actual "rule" about maximum time limits for rating swaps is made, then that definitely changes things.
The only way it would be wrong now is to give a rating for a swap I wasn't in in the first place (which isn't possible), or to refuse to change it if things are fixed.
If it ever actually becomes something that has a set way of being done, then I'll do it that way. But other than actually sending your swaps correctly and being honest on ratings ultimately, there haven't been any solid "have-to's" concerning swaps themselves.
Sure, if it becomes a rule that one is no longer able to give long periods of time to rate, or to forget about rating all together to avoid the stress for a while, then they will be rules and will be followed. That will make a slightly dishonest system...if swaps have a time limit for responsibility...if you can't be rated poorly for a swap that wasn't received (even though they can always be fixed) regardless of the date.
I do others the consideration of rating soon after receiving swaps...
I contact for many swaps I miss...multiple partner small swaps don't always get PM'd (I had a 20 PC swap and received less than 10 of them....would you PM every one of those? No...maybe a few of them, but most swappers would either rate right away, or give time for PCs to make it late).
If it's such a big deal to get rated for a swap that didn't get to your partner, you'd try to change your rating.
Hmm..I guess I'm done explaining here....I've said as much as can be said....and am in no way in the wrong.
I didn't do the most absolutely thorough and extreemly polite thing and make sure that everyone was PMd again, or check to make sure I got everyone that may not have been PMd, but that isn't wrong. And it's not particularly rude....it's merely not as polite as it could have been.
But then, neither is rating on a strict time-line without any consideration of life circumstances.
I choose to treat swap partners as humans with lives outside of their online pursuits; and only a few suffered from it....and only because they've done nothing as of yet to make sure their ratings remain for the better.
FYI Rachel does not agree with this practice as you can see by her post in the Public Forums regarding the matter. There will soon be a system in place to ensure that this doesn't happen again.
I guess no one really has to agree, as long as I'm not actually doing anything wrong. You really can't please everyone. But I'd much rather give more time for swaps to arrive and rate lost swaps later than usual (even risking ruffled feathers), than to rate immediately and ruffle feathers anyways shrug...no matter what, someone will be miffed.
Waiting at least gives the best chance for swaps to arrive, even when life does happen to those who's lives (or the postal service) interfere with their swaps.
No matter what, swaps eventually get rated...and the un-received ones will eventually have to be communicated about.
I do find it kind of amazing that many insist that it's more likely that a solid and real PC got lost (that gets kept with all the other PCs I receive), than that a message got misplaced or forgotten. Does that even make sense? It sounds more like an argument for argument's sake...