Welcome to my profile! My name is Evan. I have arranged my profile in bullet points, so it is easy to navigate and read.

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ME IN A NUTSHELL:

🧠 I am autistic

🛡 My word of the year is Magic

🧐 Motto of the year is "Make it Happen"

🐾 I have a chihuahua

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 I am married

🎬 I live in Hollywood

🏳️‍🌈 I am an asexual demi-girl

♉️ I am Taurus

💣 I am Chaotic/Neutral

👩🏻‍🦯 I am legally blind (I can see about 10 feet) it's like living in a bubble

🎭 I am an actor and currently 👩🏻‍💻 writing my first book

🛸 My husband wrote a TTRPG game. It’s called Jump Rangers and it’s about Kid Space Commandos fighting alien dinosaurs and robots, click the link and check it out!

Favorites

❤️ Color: Pink and Tiffany Blue (My wardrobe is black, white and pink)

🧡 Number: 13

💛 Flower: Fireweed and Forget-me-nots

💚 Animals: Swans 🦢(especially signets/babies) Seals, Chickadees & Fox 🦊

💙 Place: Disneyland

💜 Candy: Marshmallow

❤️ Cookie: Stauffer's Animal Cookies

🧡 Cupcake: All the cupcakes! 🧁

💛 Dessert: Cupcakes

💚 Ice Cream: Vanilla

💙 Fruit: Strawberries 🍓

💜 Pizza: Cheese

❤️ Sandwich: Butter and Jam

🧡 Cereal: Cheerios

💛 Cold Drink: Green River Soda

💚 Coffee: Starbucks 💚

💙 Tea: Nutcracker Sweet and Sleepytime by Celestial Seasons

💜 Video Game: Never Alone (slightly obsessed atm)

❤️ Book: Peter Pan

🧡 Comic: Mouse Guard & Babymouse

💛 Authors: Brian Jacques

💚 Artist: Lucy Flemming

💙 Song: Moonlight Sonata

💜 TV Show: Doctor Who

❤️ Cartoon: Sofia the First, Invader Zim, Gravity Falls and Code Lyoko

🧡 Top 10 favorite movies: Peter Pan(2003), Rise of the Guardians, Brave, Tomorrowland, Pacific Rim, Onward, **Legally Blonde*, Eddie the Eagle, Aquaman, Raya

💛 Super Hero: Captain Marvel

💚 Season: Fall 🍂

💙 Sport: Figure Skating ⛸

💜 Holiday: Russian Orthodox Christmas (Jan 7th)

😏 Just kidding I love NAPS!!

Ice Dance

Ice skating has been a huge part of my life since I was little and lived in Alaska. In my teens I actually trained to be a competitive singles skater. After some time away, I have decided to dedicate 2021 to fully focusing on training, to get ready to compete again in 2022/23 season, but this time in Ice Dance. It’s a lofty goal, and I am excited to pursue it. Encouragement is always welcome!

I would 💕love encouraging letters, swaps and gifts based on ice skates, ice dance and figure skating.

Things like:

⛸ Ice Skating ephemera, stickers or washi

⛸ Ice skating postcards or notecards with a letter or new for me to write on

⛸ Anything vintage figure skating or Sonja Henie

⛸ Any cartoon characters or animals on skates

⛸ Anything from or inspired by figure skating on my etsy wishlist

⛸ Old skating pictures from books and magazines

⛸ Ice skate ornaments (I have them out all year)

⛸ Starbucks gift cards (Training is SO EARLY!!)

⛸ ANYTHING with Ice Skates on it

Collections

⚜️ ALL THE PETER PAN

⚜️ Glassybaby Votive holders

⚜️ Keys - modern and skeleton (you can send me any keys from your junk drawer that you don't know what they belong too)

⚜️ Tea Strainers (I love beaded/handmade ones and the silicon kind that come in fun shapes and colors)

⚜️ Button Bouquet Stems like these

My HAPPY list

🙂 Peter Pan - Always Peter Pan

🙂 Anything from my favorites list

🙂 Ireland: Flags, food, clovers(three leaf), harps, Guiness, etc

🙂 Anything with my name EVAN on it

🙂 Anthropomorphic Mice and Woodland Creatures

🙂 Figure Skates ⛸ and Ice Skating

🙂 My Travelers Notebook Journal - it is standard size, handmade leather and looks like River Song’s journal from Doctor Who. This thing is my life and my brain!!

🙂 My husband said I have a Drinking Vessel Problem - I just can't say no to fun mugs, tea cups and travel mugs. I also have a plethora of Disney drinking vessels. 🤷🏻‍♀️

🙂 My American Girl Dolls - Jasper, who looks like me and Nuna whom I customized to be an Alutiiq girl

🙂 1920s New York City and advertising

🙂 Tea paraphernalia (strainers, tea-for-ones, cups, saucers, pots, bag holders...etc) and loose leaf teas

🙂 Candy - I like fruity things & suckers. I really like trying candies from all over the world.

🙂 Gudetama 🥚

🙂 Starbucks

🙂 Star ⭐️ shaped items

🙂 Pink things

🙂 Cute and vintage-y robots

🙂 Disney - Mickey Mouse, Pluto (he proposed to my dog when we were at Disneyland, I will never forget that moment), Hei hei, Rex, Merida, Snow White, Peter Pan (any character from that movie), Tigerlily, Bruni, Figment, Duffy Bear and Friends.

🙂 Daiso stationery items, especially the Disney stuff! (really ANYTHING from Daiso...love this store!!)

Things I am wishing for

✨ Peter Pan

✨ Starbucks, Target, Daiso gift cards

✨ Irish pride things - Flags, clovers, Celtic knot work, proverbs...etc. Currently trying to get my ancestry citizenship!

✨ Ice Skating ephemera, stickers, washi - anything really

✨ Anything from or inspired by my Amazon or Etsy Wishlist above (if you own something and want to pass it on or if you can make or find it cheaper - please do)

✨ Journal stickers - The task specific kind (garbage, cleaning, pet care, appts, bills, etc)

✨ Items for Luna my Chihuahua (she just had a birthday)- no rawhide please. She is almost 7 lbs, and wears a size small. She likes soft toys and things with hangy bits (ears, strings etc) over rubber toys

✨ I really love themed mail! Where the envelope and contents are all tied together. Pocket letters, flip books, mail art (especially mail art) or an envie filled with all one theme. They are my favorite happy mail to get! (If you need theme ideas ANYTHING from my profile or send me one of your favorite themes!!)

✨ American Girl Wishes (they do not need to be AG label)

• Stickers or stamps from other countries for her passport (under 1" or it won't fit)
• Stationery supplies that are doll sized and/or letters on doll size stationery to Jasper especially postcards
• Mini stickers, washi and ephemera for her journal (she has a travelers notebook the pages are 1.75X.5")
• Sunglasses
• Visual Impairment Cane
• Skating outfits
• A regency dress
• Hand made, crochet, knit items
• Sleeping bag
• Matching hats, bracelets, accessories for them and I
• Any fun doll sized items 1:3 scale
• Anything with her name on it JASPER

🚫 I live a pretty minimalist lifestyle and lately I have been getting envies full of things that I have no use for. So, if you are putting toss-ins please be sure they are something from my lists above. If not, please do not send them, they are wasted on me. I do appreciate the effort, I just don’t keep things in my house that aren’t useful, and I usually end up sending them out on in RAKs and such. Lately though it has been costing me a lot of money to do that. I would really rather not get them. If you aren’t sure, please ask. I would rather have a ruined surprise than get stuff that is not useful for me. (NOTE: This does not apply to swaps where random things are part of the swap) RAK If you are reading this and would like an envie of destash items (mostly swapbot type stuff - stationery, stickers, ephemera, etc) please message me. It is randomly filled. This offer will stay here as long as I have stuff to send off.

🚫ALLERGIES: Walnuts (other nuts are okay)

🚫Anything musty, strong perfume/incense or smoky smelling - it kills my senses and overwhelms me and goes in the garbage.

🚫AUTISM SPEAKS anything - puzzle pieces, blue pieces especially. This organization is not supportive of actually autistic people. I don’t agree with their philosophy, nor do they speak for me. (Advocating moment)

🚫 Propaganda of any kind

I am AUTISTIC. I get a lot of questions about being autistic. I thought I would take this opportunity to share some of my world with you. (Everything I am sharing is my experience with autism, and may not be like other autistics you know. I am aware of this.)

Executive Function Disorder This is something that makes it hard to get from Point A to Point B in a task. Swap bot has actually been helpful in teaching me skills to remember things in everyday life. There are steps to everything!! For example, you probably don't think much when you take a shower, but I have to have a literal list to check off so I don't get out of the shower without remembering all the things I was supposed to do. It's not just about being distracted, it's a lot like walking down a trail, and getting so wrapped up in following a rabbit - you forget about the trail. This is my life EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Special Interests Special interest are something autistic people have/do to help them focus their lives. This is not to be confused with hobbies. The difference between hobbies and special interest is when life gets too hectic/stressful I can stop a hobby. Swap bot is a hobby. Special interests on the other hand help me cope with the changes, hectic-ness and stresses of life. Stopping a special interest can/will lead to a meltdown. Usually when I am focused on a special interest I am happy and content. My special interests are...

• Peter Pan - The book, the play, movies...you name it, I love it.
• Acting/Making Movies - I love the whole process, and all the moving parts. Everything from writing to the screen.
• Disneyland - Specifically the history of the park. I do like other aspects of Disney, but Disneyland history is my jam.
• Jasper (my American Girl Doll) - I love being creative with her. She has an Instagram (link above)
• Ice Skating - I may or may not be good enough to skate in the Olympics, but I absolutely love skating. So much so that got a degree in Dance (it was the closest thing I could get to skating at the time)
• Ireland - This is a fairly new one, but I have always been drawn the culture, the food, the history...now it's a special interest. I plan on moving there someday.

Stimming Stimming or self-stimulation is a form of repetitive movement used to help in coping with emotion and/or outward stimulations. Examples would be rocking, bouncing your leg, chewing on things, spinning...the list goes on and on. Most of the time I use it to help me concentrate on the task at hand. I also have echolalia responses, meaning I repeat a word, noise or phrase while I process something. I flap my hands or sway back and forth when I am excited or happy. I like to have small stuffed animals to pet and smoosh when I am stressed. A stim I love doing is Crocheting. The repetitive motion and the feel of the yarn are perfectly calming. These are all just examples of stimming I do.

Routine Being autistic, routine is very important to me. Deviations from my routine can lead to shutdown or meltdown. So, I work really hard at maintaining a comfortable safe space in which routine can be built and nurtured. I am not unyeilding to change, but it does take some adjustment time.

Function labels For people who value the respect and safety of autistics, here is something to avoid. It is seen as highly ableist. I am sure you have heard the labels "high/low" functioning, or mild/severe autism. These labels DO NOT describe the autistic person. They are used to describe the inconvenience of the autistic person on those around them. I am autistic. I have learned to cope with things that were tough as a child, but I did NOT outgrow my autism. I can participate in swap bot and work on a movie set, but not without tools to make it accessible for myself. I have a genius level IQ, but can't remember the steps to taking a shower. On that note, not all autistics are savants or love math - nor are they completely helpless.

Communication Every autistic has their own way of communicating. For example most of the time I prefer communicating via text or AAC, but I can talk verbally and usually will with people I know well. I will talk verbally if needed. It's just not my most effective form of communication. To respond to the question of now a non-verbal person can act in film, acting out a script is different, it uses a different part of my brain as well as literally scripting out what I say and when. That takes a lot of pressure off, that's for sure.

I try really hard to fulfill swaps properly and as personally as I can, but sometimes things get lost in translation. Sometimes, being autistic, I take things a bit too literal. Though I am not afraid to ask my husband for help defining "between the lines" things.

Ask Evan If you have any questions about autism, please ask. Just be aware that any answers are based on my experience, and may not be shared by the whole autistic community.