Welcome to my profile! My name is Evan. I have arranged my profile in bullet points, so it is easy to navigate and read.

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ME IN A NUTSHELL:

🐾 I have a chihuahua ESA/Autism Dog

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 I am married to my best friend (13.9.19)

🎬 I live and work in Hollywood

🏳️‍🌈 I am an autistic asexual demi-girl

🛸 My husband wrote a TTRPG game. It’s called Jump Rangers and it’s about Kid Space Commandos fighting alien dinosaurs and robots, click the link and check it out!

Favorites

❤️ Color: Black and White stripes is a color right? No. Then I guess I pick Pink and Tiffany Blue (My capsule wardrobe is black & pink)

🧡 Number: 13

💛 Flower: Fireweed and Forget-me-nots

💚 Animals: Swans 🦢(especially signets/babies) Seals, Chickadees & Fox 🦊

💙 Place: Disneyland

💜 Candy: Marshmallow

❤️ Cookie: Stauffer's Animal Cookies

🧡 Cupcake: All the cupcakes! 🧁

💛 Dessert: Popsicles

💚 Ice Cream: Vanilla

💙 Fruit: Strawberries 🍓

💜 Pizza: Cheese

❤️ Sandwich: Grilled PB&J

🧡 Cereal: Cheerios

💛 Cold Drink: Lemon Lime Kool-Aid (the green one)

💚 Coffee: Starbucks 💚

💙 Tea: Nutcracker Sweet and Sleepytime by Celestial Seasons

💜 Video Game: Never Alone

❤️ Books: Peter Pan, Anything Neil Gaiman, The Parasol Protectorate, Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children (#StayPeculiar), Subtle Knife series, and Redwall series

🧡 Comics: Mouse Guard & Babymouse

💛 Authors: Neil Gaiman, Brian Jacques, Ransom Riggs

💚 Artist: Lucy Flemming & Lorraine Loots (the Art for Ants lady)

💙 Song: Moonlight Sonata (I wrote a paper on it in college, and it will never not have great meaning to me)

💜 TV Show: Doctor Who

❤️ Cartoon: Sofia the First, Invader Zim, Gravity Falls and Code Lyoko

🧡 Top 10 favorite movies: Peter Pan(2003), Rise of the Guardians, Brave, Tomorrowland, Pacific Rim, Legally Blonde, Eddie the Eagle, Aquaman, Raya, Penelope (2006)

💛 Super Hero: Captain Marvel

💚 Season: Fall 🍂

💙 Sport: Figure Skating ⛸ and UW Husky Football

💜 Holiday: Russian Orthodox Christmas (Jan 7th)

😏 Just kidding I love NAPS!!

Collections

⚜️ ALL THE PETER PAN

⚜️ Glassybaby Votive holders

⚜️ Keys - modern and skeleton (you can send me any keys from your junk drawer that you don't know what they belong to) I love keys!

⚜️ Miniature toys and items under the size of a quarter or so. I have an apothecary jar I put them in. I play with and sort them randomly.

⚜️ Vintage brass/bronze baby shoes mid-century or older (if you find them thrifting, I will swap with you!!)

⚜️ Vintage Buttons which I make into Button Bouquet Stems like these

Things that make me HAPPY

🙂 Peter Pan - Always Peter Pan

🙂 Anything from my favorites list

🙂 Ireland & Irish things

🙂 Anything with my name EVAN on it

🙂 Anthropomorphic Mice and Woodland Creatures

🙂 Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children

🙂 Ice Dance/Skating - I am training to take all 22 of the US Ice Dance tests. I love anything to do with ice skates and ice skating!!

🙂 Journaling

🙂 1920/30s Jazz Age, Lawn Parties, flappers, Depression Era and Prohibition Era

🙂 My American Girl Doll. (I recently donated two of my dolls to charity, so I only have one left) Her name is Madge Kittredge. She is an American Girl Kit Kittredge doll, whose full name is Margaret Mildred Kittredge. As I have a mouse named Kit, I opted to change her name. She is mostly Depression Era, I also have a lot of 1920s type things, and a lot of modern pretties - so I like to say she is a Time Traveler. She does kind of look like #13, doesn’t she?

🙂 Candy - I like fruity things & suckers. I really like trying candies from all over the world.

🙂 Starbucks

🙂 Tacky Tin fence decorations (like the kind from the 80s)

🙂 Feeding my squirrel friends that come to my porch and visit.

🙂 Cute and vintage-y robots

🙂 Gudetama 🥚

🙂 Disney - Mickey Mouse, Pluto, Hei hei, Rex, Merida, Snow White, Peter Pan (any character from that movie), Tigerlily, Bruni, Figment, Duffy Bear and Friends. Star Wars - D-O, xwings and mouse droids. Marvel - Captain Marvel, Loki, Scarlet Witch

🙂 Daiso stationery items, especially the Disney stuff! (really ANYTHING from Daiso...love this store!!)

Things I am wishing for

✨ Peter Pan

✨ Starbucks, Target, Daiso gift cards

✨ Anything from or inspired by my Profile or Wishlist above (if you own something and want to pass it on or if you can make or find it cheaper - please do)

✨ Stationary Sets (2 papers and envelope)

✨ American Girl story books (I only have Kits)

✨ Send me a single sticker that you think I would like based on my profile, and write a note about something that makes you happy.

✨ Stamps - Extra Ounce, Global and Postcard. Also, D-O stamps from the new Star Wars set.

🚫 TOSS INs NOT PROFILE RELATED - We live a pretty minimalist lifestyle and lately I have been getting envies full of things that I have no use for. So, if you are putting toss-ins please be sure they are something from my lists above. If not, please do not send them, they are wasted on me. I do appreciate the effort, I just don’t keep things in my house that aren’t useful, and I usually end up sending them out on in RAKs and such, but lately it has been costing me a lot of money to do that. I would really rather not get them. If you aren’t sure, please ask. I would rather have a ruined surprise than get stuff that is not useful for me. (NOTE: This does not apply to swaps where random things are part of the swap) RAK If you are reading this and would like an envie of destash items (mostly swapbot type stuff - stationery, stickers, ephemera, etc) please message me. It is randomly filled. This offer will stay here as long as I have stuff to send off.

🚫ALLERGIES: Walnuts (other nuts are okay)

🚫Anything musty, strong perfume/incense or smoky smelling - it kills my senses and overwhelms me and goes in the garbage.

🚫AUTISM SPEAKS anything - puzzle pieces, blue pieces especially. This organization is not supportive of actually autistic people. I don’t agree with their philosophy, nor do they speak for me. (Advocating moment)

🚫 Propaganda of any kind

I am AUTISTIC. I get a lot of questions about being autistic. I thought I would take this opportunity to share some of my world with you. (Everything I am sharing is my experience with autism, and may not be like other autistics you know. I am aware of this.)

Executive Function Disorder This is something that makes it hard to get from Point A to Point B in a task. Swap bot has actually been helpful in teaching me skills to remember things in everyday life. There are steps to everything!! For example, you probably don't think much when you take a shower, but I have to have a literal list to check off so I don't get out of the shower without remembering all the things I was supposed to do. It's not just about being distracted, it's a lot like walking down a trail, and getting so wrapped up in following a rabbit - you forget about the trail. This is my life EVERY SINGLE DAY.

Special Interests Special interest are something autistic people have/do to help them focus their lives. This is not to be confused with hobbies. The difference between hobbies and special interest is when life gets too hectic/stressful I can stop a hobby. Swap bot is a hobby. Special interests on the other hand help me cope with the changes, hectic-ness and stresses of life. Stopping a special interest can/will lead to a meltdown. Usually when I am focused on a special interest I am happy and content. My special interests are...

• Peter Pan - The book, the play, movies...you name it, I love it.
• Acting/Making Movies - I love the whole process, and all the moving parts. Everything from writing to the watching on the big screen.
• Disneyland - Specifically the history of the park. I do like other aspects of Disney, but Disneyland history is my jam.
• Madge (my American Girl Doll) - I love being creative with her. She has an Instagram (link above)
• Ice Skating - I may or may not be good enough to skate in the Olympics, but I absolutely love skating.
• 1920/30s - Mainly history, Fashion and Ephemera

Stimming Stimming or self-stimulation is a form of repetitive movement used to help in coping with emotion and/or outward stimulations. Examples would be rocking, bouncing your leg, chewing on things, spinning...the list goes on and on. Most of the time I use it to help me concentrate on the task at hand. I also have echolalia responses, meaning I repeat a word, noise or phrase while I process something. I flap my hands or sway back and forth when I am excited or happy. I like to have small stuffed animals to pet and smoosh when I am stressed. A stim I love doing is Crocheting. The repetitive motion and the feel of the yarn are perfectly calming. These are all just examples of stimming I do.

Routine Being autistic, routine is very important to me. Deviations from my routine can lead to shutdown or meltdown. So, I work really hard at maintaining a comfortable safe space in which routine can be built and nurtured. I am not unyeilding to change, but it does take some adjustment time.

Function labels For people who value the respect and safety of autistics, here is something to avoid. It is seen as highly ableist. I am sure you have heard the labels "high/low" functioning, or mild/severe autism. These labels DO NOT describe the autistic person. They are used to describe the inconvenience of the autistic person on those around them. I am autistic. I have learned to cope with things that were tough as a child, but I did NOT outgrow my autism. I can participate in swap bot and work on a movie set, but not without tools to make it accessible for myself. I have a genius level IQ, but can't remember the steps to taking a shower. On that note, not all autistics are savants or love math - nor are they completely helpless.

Communication Every autistic has their own way of communicating. For example most of the time I prefer communicating via text or AAC, but I can talk verbally and usually will with people I know well. I will talk verbally if needed. It's just not my most effective form of communication. To respond to the question of now a non-verbal person can act in film, acting out a script is different, it uses a different part of my brain as well as literally scripting out what I say and when. That takes a lot of pressure off, that's for sure.

I try really hard to fulfill swaps properly and as personally as I can, but sometimes things get lost in translation. Sometimes, being autistic, I take things a bit too literal. Though I am not afraid to ask my husband for help defining "between the lines" things.

Ask Evan If you have any questions about autism, please ask. Just be aware that any answers are based on my experience, and may not be shared by the whole autistic community.