Swap-bot Time: May 24, 2017 10:36 am


Date Joined: February 15, 2017
Last Online: May 24, 2017
Birthday: July 24
Country: United States

Matters of the HEART

Let's talk ratings and the sacred SWAP-BOT HEART ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I have noticed that hearts are often given in proportion to the amount of goodies that are attached to or added to swaps. If a swap requires 3 items, hearts are withheld if no "extras" are included OR if the postmark reads a day or two (sometimes three) after the swap deadline. Swaps are NOT time sensitive federal packages. Hearts are given at the discretion of the recipient. BUT, let's take into account a few things: (A) If you are receiving something for FREE and it adds value to your day, why be judgmental about the length of its arrival, especially if it comes within the two weeks after the deadline. (B) If the swap has met the content requirements and you withhold a heart because you expected "more", remember you may be partnered with that same person again and he or she may not allot you a heart even if you've put in that special effort. (C) How do people NOT receive hearts for simple postcard swaps? Yes, even if they arrive "on time"? Let's keep in mind that we are adults with lives: children, husbands, demanding jobs inside and out of the home. We are caregivers to our children, our lovers, our aging parents. Life is constantly happening for better or worse. This is a place of refuge for most of us. It costs hard earned money to participate in these swaps. Yes, postage stamps are an expense and so are all of the other little goodies involved. Remember that when you decide NOT to award someone a heart. Not everyone cares about the heart business but, it is a reflection of your level of appreciation. The only thing I don't appreciate is if someone lacks the courtesy to reach out if they cannot deliver on their end. Crap happens, if you can no longer afford to do the swap or you have a situation, let your partner know. Unfortunately, the protocol would be to rate a one. Now, this person is in jeopardy of being excluded from future swaps. I'm tired and rambling....I suppose what I'm trying to say is that it costs NOTHING to boost someones spirit by giving them a heart for something they have PAID to send YOU. I say everyone deserves a heart. I think I will give EVERYONE a heart from this day forward because I want EVERYONE to be happy, if they have attempted to make me happy. See how simple that is? If for some reason I did not give you a heart in the past, you've got one coming in our next swap. Have a heart and give more hearts. Life is too short to be heartless AND ungrateful.

I am a single mom raising an incredibly witty and funny 11 year-old boy child. He is my teacher and spiritual advisor. He shows me who I am every day. Parenting him and being his Mama is the single MOST important thing I will ever do. He is my immeasurable joy. I joined Swap-Bot and Postcrossing because being a single parent can be EXTREMELY lonely at times. I live in Massachusetts where the people are kind and the winters are unbearably long. In my spare time I enjoy shopping at thrift stores, journaling, organizing my apartment, napping in the sunshine and calling my mom. I would like to believe that I can make friends all over the world through postcard and letter exchanges.

"Sometimes my loneliness creeps up from behind and covers me in a heavy cloak of unworthiness. I used to struggle towards the light but, I have become accustomed to the darkness. I remain still and wait for sunrise." ~~~~~Fruity Pebbles


Personal Randomocities

  • I am tall. Was usually the tallest in all of my classes.
  • I often forget where I park when I come out of the supermarket.
  • I think it would be cool to own a flower shop.
  • My hair started turning gray when I was 19. Currently letting the silver shine. Oh, my!
  • I enjoy eating dinner in bed when I'm home alone. Delicious guilty pleasures!
  • I am vegan and I eat a lot of fruit. I mean like...a LOT!


  • I'd like more days of feeling pretty on the outside.
  • I have NOT learned to embrace my celulite just yet.
  • One of my celebrity crushes is Adrian Brody. Most people I know don't get it. But, I do. That's all that matters right.
  • I used to snore so loud, I would wake myself. Unsexy!
  • I am a tatooed and pierced mama. I'll save the details for future letters.
  • I am terribly camera shy.
  • I haven't been on a vacation in over 10 years.
  • I tried to homeschool my kid once.
  • I would be willing to road trip with other wild and free mamas. Let's plan it!


  • Interesting portraits (unique faces)
  • Human rights, Women's rights, LGBT rights, Civil
    rights, Animal rights
  • Strong men with beards
  • Interracial couples
  • Weddings
  • Romance
  • Flowers
  • Chakras
  • Blythe dolls
  • Goddesses
  • Fairies
  • Watercolor images
  • Vegan related anything
  • Afro hair
  • Black poets and authors
  • Russian postcard illustrators
  • Renoir
  • Yoga
  • Butterflies
  • Squirrels
  • Giraffes
  • Baby goats
  • Silly frogs
  • Koi fish
  • Burlesque
  • Erotica (not pornographic)
  • Geisha girls
  • Old motels
  • Old VW buses
  • Old Cameras and typewriters
  • Moonlight
  • Umbrellas and rain

I am open to ALL kinds of cards, even handmade ones! Follow your heart. If you want to know what to write, tell me 5 things that make you smile OR 5 things that make you sad. If you are up for it, list all 10.

No, Thank You

Thank you for considering me for the following but, I will kindly pass.

  • Teas, candy
  • Recipes containing meat, milk, eggs, cheese,
    or butter. I am vegan but, not a preachy one.
  • Sequins, buttons, bits and bobs of metal ephemera
  • Fabric, yarn, ribbon
  • Religious holiday cards (Christmas, Easter, etc)
  • Circus, zoo, fishing, hunting, or gun images
  • State or country multi-view postcards

Wish List

  • Childrens book illustrator postcards (blank)
  • Postcards from Louisiana and Arizona. Please, no multi-views. Write on them and send naked.
  • Images of Josephine Baker and Carmen Miranda
  • Pink, gold, lavender, purple, light blue, light green washi tapes
  • Planner stickers
  • Stickers with bohemian themes (feathers, moons, sun, dream catchers) cupcakes, cherries, owls, the word 'LOVE', hearts, cupcakes, cute squirrels, little mice, flowers, quotes
  • Mostly anything with the word 'Love' on it
  • Bookmarks
  • Tarot or oracle cards
  • Soy based candles
  • Colorful envelopes
  • Postage stamps (new and cancelled)
  • Vegan related anything
  • A tall, smart, funny, witty, bearded, compassionate, kind spirited man...just thought I'd put that in the universe too. Wouldn't it be a hoot if I met my future husband on SWAP-BOT?
  • Oh, and a big ol' house with a wrap around porch and large yard for the kid and dog. Why not ask big?

My Son Enjoys

  • Watercolor and acrylic paints
  • Mechanical pencils

Merci Beaucoup


Swappers Who Touched My Heart Strings

@imaisha Surprise Me On March- Newbie Friendly (May 2017)

@Bhindblueeyes Postcard Trading (April 2017), Address Labels (May 2017)

@Georgiafae Quick April Destash #2 (April 2017)

@Ruthless Send Something #6 (March 2017)

@Spiritfree Lots of Mail: Postcards #2 (March 2017)


christy102194 rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 20, 2017
Comment: Hey, props to you!!! 3 years vegan - that's awesome! :D
Response: Thank you! Veganism has really changed my life.
CraftyMommaonaBUDGET rated for Bad Habits on May 19, 2017
squince rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 19, 2017
Comment: Adorable!
nmlacagno rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 18, 2017
Comment: Thank you and I think spring has arrived!
Camiliann rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 17, 2017
Comment: Thanks for the pc...still decluttering here..down to the hardest room...craft, storage, garage...heaven help me...lol
goinjenny rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 17, 2017
Comment: Thank you for sending blank
Katiekay rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 16, 2017
Comment: Thank you for the fun postcard. I love the sticker and Washi.
amburrito rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 16, 2017
Larina rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 16, 2017
Comment: Thanks so much for the postcard!
KatlynAva rated for BIG SWAP #18 on May 15, 2017
Comment: Love the gothic/creepy doll postcard, perfect pick for me!
Comment: Thanks for the weird tortoise card! :-)
Comment: You absolutely made my day! Loved the gorgeous envelope, recipe and goodies! Thank you for your recommendation for "Earthlings" definitely a enlightning documentary! Hope you have a amazing week!✌️❤😁
Comment: I liked the cute little heart stickers on the postcard. Thanks!
Comment: Thank you for the great PC! And for checking in with me when I didn't rate in a timely fashion.
Comment: Thank you
Comment: Thank you for the great postcards!! Happy Spring to you too!! Have a great day! Shelley
lilneonhorse rated for April Spring Fling De-Stash #1 on May 2, 2017
Comment: Thank you so much for the box full of de-stash goodies. You proved that one woman's trash is another woman's treasure. I absolutely loved everything. I've already been putting much of it to use! :)
Response: I'm so happy you are enjoying the goodies! This is what swapping is all about. I'm having a great time on the site. Hope you are too. Happy springtime!
petaluda rated for WIYM: Handmade Bookmark Swap on May 2, 2017
Comment: Thank you very much I loved them Thank you for the extras too /)
Response: You're welcome. Glad you like them!
theevidenceisme rated for Photo PC - Flowers on May 2, 2017
Comment: That is a very interesting looking plant. Thank you!
Response: You are welcome. I loved the texture of the "flower balls". I could not resist photographing them!
Comment: Love how you decoed the envie! -- Thank you for the great post cards. Have a wonderful day..
Response: You are welcome.

Rating Overview

Overall Hearts Stars Hosted
5.0000 68 9 10
Completed Fives Threes Ones
50 79 0 0
Type 1 Type 2 Type 3 Uncategorized
2 33 15 0
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tcornell on May 12, 2017:


fruitypebbles on Mar 26, 2017:

Don't Be Shy. Say Hi. Happy Swapping!

~~~Fruity Pebbles


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